How To Beat A Fake Restraining Order Also Known As An Injunction

How To Beat A False Restraining Order Also Known As An Injunction

On December 1st of 2016, I became an overnight stalker, per say, but the judge quickly recognized the lies, and tossed the case right through the windows. I was slammed with a fake made up restraining order, AKA an injunction.  The person who filed it was someone who gained my trust. He was going through a divorce case and does not want to pay child support. At first I thought he was a good Christian man. However, I found out his true nature when I went for an outing, and I saw him with another woman who was not his wife.  At this point, he and I had a very good relationship, until I saw him with another woman. Within days after seeing him with the other woman, he must had been plotting to have me slapped with false accusations of an injunction. He first sent the police to my house, and then the next day, he went to the courthouse and filed  the injunction. But, I am a person who holds high expectation in morals and upholding my good name. When I was served with the injunction papers, I immediately started preparing for the case, because I have my prestigious job to protect, and I also have my good name to protect, and I was not going to let some person with no morals come along and try to ruin my good name. SO yes, the following day, I headed straight to the court house, and took care of this right away. I left no room for feeling sorry for myself, I went into defensive mode, and prepared for war. Nobody lies on me and my good name.

He manipulated the injunction with accusations that I was stalking him. He was such a liar, that it even appeared that I was a stalker. How did he do it?  Well, he did it by manipulation, he manipulated all the interactions we had had prior to the night of the outing and after the night he was caught with the woman. For example, I called him one day to ask his a question about the evening I saw him with the other woman, instead of answering his phone, he allowed it to ring 3 times, and never answered it. He used the 3 times rule in the Florida injunction clause and he claimed in the injunction that I called his phone, and I was harassing him, which I never even got a respond from him. This was all in the same day.
In the injunction, he wrote terminologies that were consistent with stalking, words such as traumatized, harassment, drama, 3 times;  he used many times in his false injunction against me. He manipulated every interaction we had had after he was caught with another woman 3 weeks before. The thing is, he actually was granted temporary restraining order against me just by using certain words to describe what he felt, and these words are what judges search for when they are reading an injunction , and that is how he was granted one. Keep in mind, that anyone can take out a temporary injunction and can get it approve with no evidence as long as the person can come up with a good drama storyline. Either the person had to had the incidents happened, or the person have to be a good liar to make the judge grant one. In my case, the person was a god liar.

I never stalked this man, I never called his work over a long course of time, and I never stalked him anywhere. He even said in his injunction that I harassed him and the woman at the outing, he also said I was about to have a scuffle with the woman, and he had to stand in between us, which was also a lie. He made all these stories appear true. But, too bad he could not prove any of them. Lies can only go so far, and I stropped him right in his tracks. I guarantee he won't ever go to court with anymore lies like that on anybody else as a long as he live, because I totally shocked him and debunked all his lies. I totally destroyed all his credibility of being honest. He knew I was a nice and honest person, and he preyed on that in his injunction thinking I would agree to the situations and not explain myself. He thought I would have just sat their in awe, which I did not. I calmly defended all allegations with pose.

How I defended myself against these false accusations?

1. I read the injunction 3 times and I was able to grasp how he even obtained it, and it was by manipulating our innocent interactions.

2. I went online and I research people who lost injunctions, and I research information on people who was granted an injunction, and I was able to gain more insight.

3. I then went to the court and filed a counter petition (I did so just so I can have a piece of mind that I explained myself, but my counter petition was rejected because of insufficient evidence. I am not a liar, and I was not going to make up stories just to make the judge think negative about anyone)

4. Then I search my area on the Internet for injunction attorneys. I found one.

How I won my case?

1. I am a coach. I always knew that the best offense is a great defense. I had play both sides, I had play offender and defender, offend him and defend myself in court that is.

2, My attorney was able to find little lies in the injunction, and she made him look like a liar right off the bat, because in the injunction he stated that the lady was a friend of his, but in court, he stated that the lady would be his potential girlfriend after his divorce case is over.

3. I did not deny any of our interactions,  even though he manipulate our interactions, I did not deny any of them, because the judge will know when someone is lying. What I did was, I told the judge what actually happened, versus what he tried to say happened, and that was enough to defend myself against the lies about our interactions.

4. I kept calm. Always keep calm, even though my blood was boiling at the mere fact that he was able to obtained a false injunction, and I wanted to just outburst at him in the courtroom, I had to remind myself to be calm, because I am on trial here and not him. And also, even if you seemed right and have all  your evidence, you can lose your case by appearing as if you will become a threat to the petitioner. Any signs of stress the judge see can ruin your chance of winning. ALWAYS REMAIN CALM, because the calm guy always win.

5. Always say very little and get to the point. Do not say more that 3 sentences if you can help it, or else the judge will get you caught up in your own honest stories and can make you  look like a liar also. Stick to your story, even if you get confused by the judge, (it's the judge's job to confuse you in order to catch you in a lie,  don't slip up and crumble). DO NOT allow the judge to go far if you slip up, correct yourself immediately, and then you can silently plead the 5th. Because  the judge will not toss  out the fake  injunction, the judge may grant the injunction for a short time and let it expire or grant it for how ever the petitioner wants it, that's why you want to be honest along with your evidence, but honesty alone won't let you win because had I not had evidence and my attorney, I would of had this fake injunction against me, even with my honesty.

6. I brought in evidence. This man claimed I stalked him at the outing, I was able to provide evidence that I was a volunteer at the event that day, and it was a mere coincidence that he would show up there with a woman that was not his wife. I printed out emails from the company I volunteered that day, and I was able to let the judge see it.

6. I never let him bait and switch in court. This man tried to stray away from his injunction accusations and went on to actually calling me a stalker and tried to say things that made me appear to be one. However, I directed all of my answers to his injunction, for instance, he stated that I called him 3 times and made threats to him on the third ring he picked the call up. See here, he allowed his phone to ring three times so is could constitute stalking, but he could of answered on the first ring. However, I did call 3 times, but it was to ask him a question, and I never made threats to him, he had added the word "threat," to obtain the injunctions, so, in court, I told the judge that I never threaten him, and I never threaten him the whole time I had known him, which I never did. STICK TO THE INJUNCTION THE PERSON WROTE, they will try to bring up other situations that were not written in the injunction, always prefere back to the injunction, and always make them out to look like a liar, judges hate to be lied to.

7. The burden of proof was on him. This guy concocted a false injunction, but he didn't present one proof at the hearing. The only thing he tried to do was make me out to look like a crazy stalker out of nowhere. He lied to the judge and told the judge we hadn't spoken in 1 year and he didn't know why I was still talking to him a year later.. He made the judge think I was an actual delusional stalker, and the thing is, the judge actually believed him, because the judge made a statement to me, " do not bother this man, because this man does not want you bothering him."  The good thing is, I had proof, and he had none, I showed the judge phone calls where we had recently spoken a few weeks before the injunction, so that's why the judge dismissed the case, because the judge said there was no proof that I stalked him. He was so dumbfounded, he left the courtroom in shocked that he wasted a whole day trying to get an injunction just because he felt I was going to tell his family that he was a cheater going around town with another woman. And the thing is, he is suppose to be a Christian man. However, all of that squeaky clean image I had about him quickly vanished that night when I saw him with another woman who was not his wife. He is still in divorce court.

This was a hard lesson learn, but I learn it, and I can now go on with a successful life, because an injunction can ruin your whole life.

NOTE: NEVER go anywhere near the court system without an attorney. On the day of my court hearing, this same judge who dismissed my case, she was the same judge handing injunctions out like they were candies, so you better be prepared or be squared. PEOPLE USE injunctions for the wrong reasons other than which it was intended to do, it is supposed to protect against violence, but 99% of the time they use it for other purposes such as, getting back at an ex, keeping the kids away, ruining someone who they hate, and some people are just sick and mentally ill, they just go and use it because they don't know how to solve problems on their own, or talk problems through, so they go and take out a restraining order on a person for situations they could otherwise discuss with the person. Be careful about who you get involve with.

When it comes to the law, I urge everyone to learn and know your rights. Don’t let someone lie about and manipulate the law to threaten and scare you into silence. Knowledge is power. 

Ways an injunction can hurt you

• You will be unable to own a firearm, yes, you cannot own a gun.
• The person may never remove the injunction, and you could live in poverty for the rest of your life.
• The person can contact you, but you cant contact them.
• You can't be police-officer.
• You cannot work with children or elderly.
• You may not be able to open a business in the county where the injunction is granted.
• Your name goes into a database.
• The person who is granted the injunction will control your life and where you can and cannot go.
• And worst of all, if you violate the injunction, you can go to jail for a felony or misdemeanor.
• It can also hinder your dating life.

If you have any questions feel free to ask me, I am always blogging, therefore, I will answer your questions.